The end of the year is fast approaching. This is the time when you start hearing people say “2018 was the worst year EVER!” and “I’m so glad this year is almost over”. Let’s not forget the “2019 is going to be AMMAAAZING!” And the “2019 I’m ready, bring it on!!!!”
Which of course is what we said about 2018, 2017, 2016………
January is when we start with the resolutions, the intentions, the “this year I’m going to do it differently.” Of course you are. That’s what you said 11 months ago. Until suddenly it’s now and you realize you have fallen into the trap of ‘same old same old’. The inclination is to bang your head on a hard surface in frustration. Never mind, next year will be different….
Here’s a suggestion: Take some time before the end of this year. Block off a couple of hours in that oh-so-busy diary (Why is it that suddenly, as soon as Christmas approaches everyone starts with the ‘we must get together before Christmas!’) Let’s be honest, we have had some 300-odd days already to do that. Pour yourself your favourite drink, have some blank paper and pen at hand. Find a nice quiet spot where you won’t be disturbed.
Now, reflect back on the year that has passed. What didn’t work? Where did you drop the ball, or, horror of horrors, several balls? What do you regret? What resentments, frustrations or irritations lie like annoying splinters just under the skin? What obstacles and challenges seem to get in the way of your goals and dreams? Note them all down on your paper. Get it all out.
When you feel like you are done, take a deep breath. As you breathe out, let it all go. Close your eyes and sigh it all out. It’s done, dusted, you can’t change it. Let it go. Feel a lightness in the body as you release it.
Now, refresh your drink, take a new sheet of paper and write down the successes, the gratitudes. (The fact that you have made it this far can be counted as a success, that you woke up this morning, a gratitude.) The things that did work, what you can pat yourself on the back for. What worked? Perhaps it wasn’t the greatest year but there is always something to be grateful for.
When you feel your process is complete, it’s not something to be rushed and it may take more than just one session, please go with your own intuition as to how this will be for you – you may want to burn both sets of notes. Ritual is a powerful way of releasing. Watch those pages burn and know that you have laid to rest 2018. As the flames burn it all away, feel the release.
If I can give you one tip, it’s not to go into the new year with the baggage from 2018. Kate Emmerson the Quick Shift Deva has a great online process called Closing Out Strong, which she shares over the course of several emails and which I discovered a couple of years ago. Now it’s become an annual habit. For me, the only way to grow, change and create the life I do want, is to take time to reflect on what I did, or didn’t do. Then on the 31st December I do another process to set myself up for the coming new year, but that’s a topic for the next blog, so watch this space!
Oh, and don’t beat yourself up too much when you do this – we are only human after all.
Fallible, imperfect, magnificent and glorious in our messiness.
Here’s to closing out the year strong – Cheers!