“Ease in the now” is my new mantra since returning from the Fairy Godmother Donna McCallum’s retreat weekend recently (Yes she really does call herself the Fairy Godmother and she runs various workshops, online courses and retreats)
It’s a bit strange, when you think about it, that we need to pay someone in order to spend some time renewing mind, body and soul. Someone to tell us “time for rest, time to get into nature, time to think about your own needs”. Somehow it seems to be impossible for many of us to gift that to ourselves in the everyday routines of life. As we move into what is commonly known as the “silly season”, as the year draws to a close, year-end functions, business shut downs, holidays, Christmas and New Year festivities crowd our thoughts and retailers gear up for (they hope) the months of milk and honey. It often feels like this time of year is more frenetic than any other. There is a mad rush to finish off at work, pack and prep for the much-anticipated holiday, shopping malls are manic and we have the usual “we must get together before Christmas” refrain – as though we hadn’t had the rest of the year to do just that!
Gate vs Di meant that I had to opt out of my ‘normal’ life in many ways, for several months, and to be honest I am not sure I want to return to it! I have learnt to be way more mindful of how and where I spend my energy. And I began to wonder, what if I could live like this all the time? Does it have to be busy, busy, busy, rush, rush rush? A case of “hurry up inner peace, I don’t have all day!”
On the retreat we were given several very useful tools to help us remain present and grounded in this moment – which is all we have. Our minds are masters at taking us all over the place, back into the past, where guilt, regret, resentment, sadness and bitterness dwell. Or into the future, where anxiety, tension, stress and fear are to be found. It is in the present moment that we create the ease. That doesn’t mean all our challenges disappear in a puff of smoke, it means we can choose the way we deal with them. Wherever you are IS your reality. So in this moment of reality, what can you feel, taste, hear, see, smell? You literally cycle through the senses to bring yourself back to the awareness of now. And tell yourself that even though the situation may not be ideal, in this moment it’s OK and you’re OK.
Can you pause, just for this moment, and choose how you are going to react, or respond to what’s happening? Ease in the now? Try it, you might just like it! Silly season be gone. How about focussing on a new way of being and breathing into “Simply Slowveld – The Good Life”?