We Are White River has always been about connecting and building community, and promoting and celebrating excellence. Both in businesses and in individuals. Brene Brown says that courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen. She says that vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change and that when we are vulnerable we allow our true selves to be seen and felt by the world. Creativity comes from allowing the truth of who you are to shine through in everything that you do.
A bunch of us in White River have recently come together and are working on being brave and putting ourselves out there, both on a personal and business level. We are learning to be true to who we are and to share that with the world. Finding and being the real you without masks is not easy but it is worth it. It is not easy to be vulnerable and to put yourself out there as you open yourself up to criticism and possible judgements: It sounds easy to say ag, I don’t care what people think. But we do. So maybe it’s better to just not care about what SOME people think. It is important to have a group of people, a few close friends or loved ones who can be totally honest with you and whose feedback can be constructive and useful.
Brené Brown herself struggled with being criticised after her first TED talk when she was completely herself and made herself vulnerable by taking off her “academic armour” as she calls it. She suffered from a vulnerability hangover when people started judging her. She then came across a quote from Theodore Roosevelt that helps one to put into perspective and to care a little less about what other people think.
He said: “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” Brené Brown takes this further to say that if you are not also in the arena getting your ass kicked, she is not interested in your feedback. 😊
It is easy to sit on the sidelines and hurl criticisms. But if you are not also in the arena fighting, maybe you should keep your criticisms to yourself? As you often don’t even know the whole story or what that person had to go through to get where they are. Greta Thunberg is an example. People are so quick to judge and hurl abuse at this young girl who is trying to make a difference. But what are they doing to make a positive contribution to climate change? At least she is trying to do good and make a difference in the world.
So we want to challenge you to:
Be brave with your life
Not to settle or play small
To be make a positive contribution – however small, just start somewhere.
Be yourself – in the real world, but also online. Take off the masks
So are you up for the challenge?
If you are and if you have some positive comments to share or even videos to post about yourself, your business or about White River or a topic that comes to mind, you can share it with us by commenting on this article or by sending it to 071490309.