“I spent a lot of years trying to outrun or outsmart vulnerability by making things certain and definite, black and white, good and bad. My inability to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability limited the fullness of those important experiences that are wrought with uncertainty: Love, belonging, trust, joy, and creativity to name a few.” – Brené Brown
Just like in the Brené Brown quote above I’ve sometimes been afraid of the discomfort of vulnerability. Of not being in control, of not being perfect. But creativity, any creativity, not just physically creating something out of nothing, but creativity in decisions and in navigating life, can only exist if we realise that perfection doesn’t exist, and that failure is ok. We must step out into the “chaos” to be brave for only then can magic and growth happen. Anything less, will lead to stagnation.
When one gives into and allows the creative process to happen, something special happens. Creating gives meaning to our lives and keeps us in the present where no anxiety can exist, as anxiety is always about an imagined future and is mostly not based in reality.
Here are 10 things I have learnt about how the creative process and navigating life are similar:
- Learn to go with the flow.
- Don’t rush the process – one learns as one goes along, therefore the process is needed. The process is the point.
- Have an idea of what you want the end result to be, but let go of attachment to a particular outcome
- Breathe through the frustration.
- It will get difficult, you will get fed up and you will want to give up. Just keep swimming.
- Let go of worrying about what others may think or of sticking to a particular style or “recipe”.
- Let go of “supposed to” and perfection – there is no such thing.
- You are doing it for you, no one else. If you are ok with it, that is all that matters.
- If you are stuck, revisit your why. Go back to what feels right for you.
- Get comfortable, go outside, go barefoot and connect with the earth. It helps you to stay grounded, focused and in the moment.
I think the world will be a better place if we all learn to allow ourselves to be vulnerable, to be seen. For only then can we really show up and be creative in our thoughts and actions and in doing so truly show up for ourselves and for others.